November 2023

Are You In A Toxic Work Space?

Our consulting sessions while in a toxic work space of after leaving are based on ideas developed by our founder. It is as a result of a Toxic Work Spaces experience, research, and working extensively with toxic work spaces survivors. From experience, a toxic work space undermines the following basic needs: Safety Trust Control Value Closeness When these basic needs are met, we have a psychological cushion that helps us when stuff like stress happens. After you leave a toxic work space, the cushion feels like it’s gone and that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and with unhealthy coping mechanisms. Has a Toxic Work Space changed how you view safety, trust, sense of self-worth or you feel as if you aren’t in control?  The premise of our consulting package is that a toxic work space can disrupt you when it changes your belief in the basic needs mentioned. Please Note! The sessions on life in and after leaving a toxic work space are designed to help you cope in your present life right now after leaving a Toxic Work Space. We do not ask you to think about the experiences or get into the deep details. However, some of the exercises in our sessions may trigger powerful and unpleasant memories and can leave you feeling overwhelmed.  One of the first tasks of our sessions is to teach you how to feel safe. For this reason, we don’t advise you to skip your sessions until you are sure you have ways to take care of yourself when strong feelings arise.  

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Life In A Toxic Work Space

As a professional, have you experienced any of the following? Communication at work was ineffective, or you felt like you were being lied to Passive-aggressive communication was common You felt like you never got a break You felt like you were ‘walking on eggshells’ There was a culture of tactic, or explicit, bullying Metrics mattered but people didn’t seem to You felt unsafe or like you were under threat There was unnecessary micro-management  You didn’t feel like you had control over your actions, the ability to make decisions, or the ability to make a difference You had unrealistic KPIs, or metrics that were impossible to achieve You were in a team that constantly fought against each other, rather than collaborating most of the time There was a high employee turnover Promotions and pay rises were inconsistent The boss behaved irrationally, or unreasonably The events caused by a Toxic Work Space contradict your understanding of how things at work are “supposed” to be. They end up disrupting your sense of self and how you view others. They disrupt your understanding of safety and condition you to believe you have no control over your life.  When any of the named experiences is triggered by another person, it ends up undermining a basic sense of trust in others; it makes intimacy challenging and eventually disrupts your own sense of self-worth and self-esteem. If you have had any of these experiences, or similar, then we would like to help you. Our work is an effort to offer information that will help anyone who has worked in a toxic work space or is still working in one. Get in touch with us and let’s schedule a discovery session. Email admin@toxicworkspaces.com

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The “River Story” As A Metaphor for Transforming Toxic Work Spaces

Have you ever heard of the “River Story”? Also known as “The Upstream Story,” it’s a powerful metaphor that sheds light on the essence of primary prevention, emphasizing the importance of addressing the root causes of a problem rather than just dealing with its immediate consequences. In a workplace context, this narrative takes on a profound significance, especially when tackling the pervasive issue of toxic work spaces. Desmond Tutu once remarked, “There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” This sentiment resonates deeply with our mission at Toxic Work Spaces, where we strive to help professionals navigate the workplace, especially toxic toxic work spaces. The River Metaphor: Picture the workplace as a vast river with a formidable waterfall at its core. At the bottom of this cascade, countless individuals are tirelessly working to rescue those who have fallen into the river, desperately trying to prevent them from drowning. Amidst this frenzied rescue effort, a lone figure looks upstream and notices a seemingly endless stream of people cascading down the waterfall. If you are a leader and you are expected to give a response to the urgent inquiry of a fellow rescuer encapsulates the essence of our approach at Toxic Work Spaces: “I’m going upstream to find out why so many people are falling into the river.” In our metaphorical river, toxic work spaces represent the waters that individuals unwittingly enter, often leading to detrimental consequences for their well-being and professional growth. Taking a closer look upstream, we observe bridges symbolizing the professional journey, each in varying states of repair. Some bridges stand robust, crafted from sturdy components, while others appear weakened, with missing boards and flimsy railings. Unsurprisingly, a majority of those falling into the river traverse these poorly constructed bridges, whereas those near or crossing the well-maintained bridges enjoy protection. It becomes evident that certain groups of people are more likely to falling into the river. This vulnerability is not rooted in individual weakness or intrinsic flaws but is a consequence of the communities they belong to. The bridges, representing different facets of the professional landscape, play a crucial role. Individuals from communities with strong bridges, constructed from high-quality materials, are shielded from the hazards of falling into the river and are facilitated in safely navigating their professional journey. The River Story serves as a reminder of the importance of addressing the root causes of workplace toxicity. At Toxic Work Spaces, we advocate for a proactive approach, encouraging organizations and professionals to assess and reinforce the bridges along the professional journey. By understanding and rectifying the systemic issues that contribute to toxic work spaces, we aspire to create a workplace landscape where individuals can thrive, free from the constant threat of falling into turbulent waters.   

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